Customer Service Call to Relationship Counselor

Friends,

I'm doing okay. Really, I am. It's times like these that I REALLY AM thankful for the many things and people that I currently have in my healthy life.

Yes, I am still hurting. And I wish I knew how long this feeling would last. I kind of want it to leave...right now... :) that would be much appreciated. Like I told my mom and dad, "You raised me to be such a strong woman. But right now, I just have to cry it out."

To my friends and family reading this: you are all so great, and I know that it can get pretty old to read about the same thing over again. But, I am finding this to be a helpful tool in getting through the day.

This next part is about to get emotional. It might be kind of funny actually :) Depending on how you read it.


Yesterday morning (Sunday) I woke up around 6:30am to check my email. For some reason I got an email from match.com telling me that someone has "winked" at me. I totally cancelled my subscription 2 years ago. For those of you who don't know...James and I met on match.com. So anyways, I thought to myself, "well, it doesn't hurt to see who winked at me"...so, with match.com, you are able to sign-on anytime, even if you canceled or deactivated your profile. The last time I was on was about a year ago when I was doing research on how to submit success stories.

So, then I signed-in and found that I had 3 emails right away. Had to renew my subscription to read them...so I did. Read each one...no one of interest to me. Delete, delete and D-E-L-E-T-E, delete.

Gosh, hours went by, I kept receiving more winks and emails. I thought to myself..."No, you're not cute...no, too old....no, you're a smoker...No No NO NO!!!"

I fell on my bed and just cried. Why on earth am I doing this? I am not ready to be with anyone. Dammit, I don't want anyone else. I want him. People say that I'm going to feel like this for awhile and eventually...someday...it'll go away...that I'll begin to realize that there is someone better for me OR...that he and I will reunite.

"What do I do next?"I thought. I called the customer service line hoping that they were open on the weekends and yeah...I was wrong. So I waited to call this morning.

This is where it starts to get a little emotional and funny all at the same time...enjoy the dialogue :)

"Thank you for calling match.com customer service my name is Hugo, how may I assist you today?"

"Good morning Hugo. My name is Juliet Valdez and I really need to cancel my subscription and would like a full refund."

"Miss Valdez, may I call you Juliet?"

"Yes, you may."

"May I ask the reason why you would like to cancel?"

Then it all came out. In one breathe. He asked...and I told.

"Hugo, I have nothing against match.com. Infact I love match.com. I recommend your service to all of my friends searching for a partner. *Here came the tears* Through match, I was able to spend 2 amazing years with a great man. You introduced me to a man that has changed me for the better, that I have shared many great memories with. Who loved everything about me...and who let me be ME."

"Juliet, so you are canceling because you found your match? That is great!"

"Hugo, yes...I found him. But the timing of our relationship has challenged us. We are spending time apart to focus on our indivudual lives and kind of relying on fate and time to bring us back together. It's tough...I dont want this right now...but it's a battle I really can't fight."

"Juliet, please know that I am very sorry to hear about this. I know that it can be tough right now, but let time take its course."

"Hugo, my friend...I'm not looking for a relationship counselor...I'm just looking for my refund and no more emails from these guys I am not interested in. Sorry to put you in this awkward situation. I am not ready to move on. It was an irrational decision and I cannot do this. You asked for the reason why...I gave it to you (said with a little chuckle)."

"No worries, Juliet...I trust that everything will work out in the end...if he's for you...then you both will be together. You sound like a great woman and I can hear in your voice that you are a strong one too."

"Hugo, all I can say is if we get back together...match.com is going to have one heck of relationship success story...and I am calling you back to schedule our promotional commercial!"

"Juliet, we'll be waiting for that phone call. A full refund has been issued to your credit card and you will receive a confirmation email in a few seconds. Take care and best of luck to you and him."


That's it for now...hope you enjoyed today's blog! I have French class tonight. Wahoo!

xoxo